The Former Traveling Spotlight

The tales of a "30" something gay former stand-up comic living in NYC who is searching for his soul mate or soul...which ever comes first.

Friday, November 02, 2007

Worst Ever

I'm the worst mother/father ever.

I've heard that phrase uttered so often from so many parents I respect, and each time it makes the hair on my arms stand up on ends. I want to shake the parent who says it and say something along the lines of "Did you leave your child in a vehicle with the engine running while you went to an ATM?", or "Did you play pass the joint with your child?"!

Yet all too often I see parents judge themselves by the accomplishments and failures of their children. Their offspring, which are a genetic make up of themselves are supposed to be perfect...even when children have a will of their own. Why do parents judge themselves so harshly? Yet, parents do it. And it made me wonder...How do single people do to judge ourselves?

What makes a single person a bad person. Is it a person's credit rating? Where if you can't pay your bills, you are doomed to suffer for 7 years, hiding from collection agents, praying that you never get your wages garnished, hoping that eventually you will get your head above water.

How about the number of sex partners? Where a person who has too many (or too little) is considered less of a person?

Is it solely on our looks? Where if we gain weight, we are considered a failure in the eyes of a judgemental society that enforces an unattainable eternal youth?

Or is it employment? Where those of us with the high paying, high status jobs are the only good single people out there. The job is essentially our "child" and if we aren't successful...we're just such a bad employee/person.

Perhaps it's just all of the above in that until we have a relationship and/or children...we are already failures.

God...I'm the worst human being ever.

Patrick - 2:03 PM -

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